Hello, just stumbled across the site and see that there isnt much here yet but thought I would say hello and ask the question anyway.
I have a 5 year old boy who has never been dry at night. My mother in law acts like this is completely unacceptable and is not something he should be doing at his age. It’s hot to the point where we are no longer comfortable letting him sleepover at grandmas as I don’t want him feeling like he has done something wrong.
We have tried on a few occasions to get him dry at night but have not been succesful in anybof our attempts.
I am at a loss as to what to do next.
I would be interested to hear from anyone with similar experiences or if anyone has any advice.
Thank you very much for the reply. I really appreciate it.
In terms of whether I think he is ready it’s quite tough to know. My honest view is no I don’t as we have never really had a dry nappy in the morning. At one stage I thought it was perhaps just laziness, but I tried leaving his nappy off a couple of times and found him asleep in soaked pyjamas, he didn’t even wake up. So I really don’t think he can help it.
We always make sure we limit is fluids before bedtime and make sure he goes to the toilet. We have been trying lifting in the night which means he isn’t quite as wet in the morning, but he is almost always still wet.
Do you think I should leave it for a bit and wait for some signs that he is ready?
Hi Sue and welcome to the forum.
Firstly what I would say is that, in my view, your mother in law is completely wrong if she has made you feel like you are in some way a bad parent, or if your little boy is to blame.
In the the vast, vast majority of cases at 5 years old bedwetting at 5 years old is not an indication of there being anything wrong at all. It’s just a development process that children progress through at different paces.
There are a few different techniques you can try, but to be honest for them to have a good chance of success there normally would need to be some signs of him being ready such as there starting to be some dry nappies in the morning.
Having said that with one of my children this was not the case. He woke up wet every single morning and then after a number of failed attempts and with the help of an alarm he cracked it.
So please try not to get too disheartend and don’t let anyone try to tell you that they know your child better than you do. If you honestly feel he is not ready then there is little to be gained by trying to force the situation.
Please feel free to ask any more questions and I or one of the other members will I am sure be more than happy to reply.